This questionaire for self-exploration will help you to prepare for systemic counselling and seminars.
Questions for Preparation
Dear client !
Please have some time for answering these questions in a silent peaceful place. Please give short answers, tell only the most important things - which is often the first which comes into your mind. If you do not know something, try to ask your parents and grand-parents, if possible.
Parents and Siblings
1. How did your parents learn to know each other?
2. How old were they then?
3. How old were they at the time when they married?
4. If they did not marry, what was the reason?
5. Did your parents have partners before? (When, how long, why did they separate ?)
6. How many children come out of your parents` partnership? (Also those who were born dead or died shortly after birth, belong to the family !)
7. How many children come from the partnerships before?
8. At what position among your siblings are you?
9. Do your parents still live together?
10. When did they divorce? Why?
11. If one or both parents died: When? Why?
12. How would you describe your parents´ relation in your childhood?
13. Did you or one of your siblings experience a special fate?
(special fates are e.g.: early death, accidents, abuse, severe disease, addiction, handicaps, childlessness, emigration, severe losses, crime, crime of war, prison)
Mother`s Relatives
Your Mother:
14. How many siblings did your mother have, at what position of age is she?
15. Did your mother or some of her siblings have a special fate?
16. What is the profession of your mother?
Mother of your Mother:
17. How many siblings did your grandmother have, at what position of age is she?
18. Did your grandmother or some of her siblings have a special fate?
Father of your Mother:
19. How many siblings did your grandfather have, at what position of age is he?
20. Did your grandfather or some of his siblings have a special fate?
21. What was his profession?
22. How was the relation of your grandparents?
23. Have there been other important partnerships before?
24. Are there special events in the life of your grandparents or in former generations?
25. What parent was closer to your mother?
Father`s Relatives
Your Father:
26. How many siblings did your father have, at what position of age is he?
27. Did your father or some of his siblings have a special fate?
28. What is the profession of your father?
Mother of your Father:
29. How many siblings did your grandmother have, at what position of age is she?
30. Did your grandmother or some of her siblings have a special fate?
Father of your Father:
31. How many siblings did your grandfather have, at what position of age is he?
32. Did your grandfather or some of his siblings have a special fate?
33. What was his profession?
34. How was the relation of your grandparents?
35. Have there been other important partnerships before?
36. Are there special events in the life of your grandparents or in former generations?
37. What parent was closer to your father?
and at the end:
39. What do you want to take home from this seminar, and what do you want to change for you?
If you do not know something or are not able to find it out, just let it rest. Please bring this questionaire to the seminar in any case!